Morality Question...

[Hawnjigs]

Our neighbor gal is, well, employed in the oldest profession, tho not hard core on mean streets I think. She says she is diagnosed "Bi-polar" which I don't know much about and has lost her family including 3 kids. She's 30, a real looker, and seems soft & sweet. I think she chose her job out of necessity, as there is scant employment opportunity here in Puna.

To my question - just saw a YouTube about a Nevada bunny ranch which is in the news due to political affiliations. The gals interviewed seemed happy enuf and the place looked safe, clean, and catering to affluent clientelle. Do you think it would be good or bad choice for me to suggest she consider moving to Nevada?

 

[Shoemoo]

Wow, that's a potential social mine field if I ever saw one. Personally, I would recommend not saying anything and staying out of it unless she specifically asks you for advice. Not your family = not your business.

 

[Lost Pole]

Mine field nada.

If you're a friend, say what you think. When you do that, you're being a real friend. If you're a good person then you're advice is sound and in the best interest of your friends' life, AS A WHOLE.

No disrespect, Shoe.

Adam

 

[AtticaFish]

Well.... if that is a profession of choice i would think it would be best to do it in a state that it would be legal instead of breaking the law.

As for suggesting it to her.... what happens when you tell her and she gives you a dumb look and says 'WHAT are you TALKING about?' That could get dicey. Only way i would is if i knew the person very well.

 

[papaperch]

I would NEVER offer advice to someone who has never asked for it. While I cannot agree with her choice of profession it is her life and she is an adult.

While your intentions might be as pure as can be. Chances are the advice will be taken the wrong way. Ever hear the expression the road to he** is paved with good intentions.

I am assuming that this activity of hers is not affecting you or your family members. If this is true there is no reason to act on this at all. Life's battles should be chosen very carefully. In this particular matter you are risking much for very little if any reward.

 

[Fatman]

Had a neighbor who I thought that about here in Vermont. Really nice, no problems but thought she was!! NOPE!!!!!!!! She was talking to the wife and turns out she was a swinger!! Just really liked it alot.

BIG MINE FIELD BUDDY!!!!!!!!! Let it go!!!!

 

[toadfrog]

Holy perrodox Batman we better stay the flutter out of this.

 

[blt]

Stay out of it vote here.

 

[Hawnjigs]

Firstly, I really appreciate the input on a sensitive subject. Needed to ask cuz in person this gal stirs feelings which can affect reason - not that I'll ever compromise my marriage - but you guys know what I mean. She's petite, vulnerable, & exceptionally pleasing to the eye, affecting not only protective paternal but romantic feelings.

I've been accused of being generous to a fault - like last week another neighbor got me out of bed at 6 AM and said he wouldn't make his bus and needed a 30 mile ride to a 7 AM doc appt., in rush hour traffic. Took him, no problem, hope its not gonna be a habit.

Indeed, I'm concerned my economically depressed area is not the best location for a health risky & illegal profession. With thanks to all, I think I will refrain from further involvement. My information about her is unasked for second hand from several sources, and we both avoid that area of her life in our infrequent conversations.

 

[Hawnjigs]

Lost Pole, I hear you on backing a FRIEND. This gal & I are barely aquaintances, and any imposition in her life might indeed have negative repercussions to the benefit of no one.

Fine line here between helping out and interfering.

Sorry, about the big words, guys. While you were having fun in school, I was nerding for college.